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Re: 1960's adoptions

Postby rainbowchimp » Mon Sep 12, 2016 2:10 pm

Thanks every one
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Re: 1960's adoptions

Postby AdrianB38 » Mon Sep 12, 2016 3:08 pm

And I may be blundering in but.... This isn't really a family history question is it? This is about you and the addressee of that letter I suggest. Suppose you did find something from research without involving them... Would that make your relationship with the addressee better or worse? You need to think about that first.

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1960's adoptions

Postby SoozOne » Tue Sep 13, 2016 5:33 am

Either way if you continue to investigate someone is going to be upset. Either with the outcome, or most likely getting wind of your search behind their back. I surmise your parent is getting on in age, you don't want to leave it too late, then wish otherwise.
Why don't you take a deep breath, mention the letter then ask direct and get it over with.
(And yes I know just how sensitive this is, and how many deeply unhappy memories the past can hold. But bringing it out in the open can also be a great healer. My eldest child was adopted against my wishes also in the 60s. We have since made contact. I deeply regret the lost years.)


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